The way you feel when you look deeply into yourself is what determines your level of self esteem. There are those who have very high self esteem and these are the kind who are happy and see something positive in themselves and in others. Then there are those who can’t seem to find anything good about themselves and would either blame others or themselves for their predicament. For such people, self esteem counseling may help them have renewed feelings on their personality. In this article we take a look at some symptoms and causes of low self esteem, and how counseling can help.
Some symptoms of low self esteem
There are many telltale signs of low self esteem but we will list only a few
Feeling insecure in relationships
Feeling everybody hates us
Feeling we can never amount to anything
Hating everything about ourselves
Believing every other person is better than us
The Cause of Low Self Esteem
Generally, there are deep rooted causes that may not be linked to the present circumstances of the person. Sometimes the root problem is so deeply buried that it may be hard to detect it.Most things that lead to low esteem happen during childhood when the person is still vulnerable and has an open mind to accept everything they hear.
Everything children hear becomes eventually becomes law to them and if a child only hears bad things about themselves, they tend to accept it as true. If you repeatedly tell a child how useless they are, that child is going to grow up being an insecure person because deep inside them, they had accepted at a tender age that they are useless. Unfortunately, when they become adults, this may not actually show up as the grown up child being useless but the deeply rooted believe in them being useless causes them to act in certain ways. They could either become unnecessarily rude in their effort to hide the useless character that they believe they have or they can even tend to be too accommodating even to people who hurt them.
The Role of counseling
While you may argue that you could seat at home and do reality checks on yourself, very few people have that will power to honestly look deep inside to find the problem. That is why self esteem counseling may be a better option for most people. A counselor will be able to help individuals suffering with low self esteem face their fears. They will be able to take them back to those past encounters that their minds have blocked so they cannot remember. This is important as it is only in facing these fears that the person can finally be healed.
People should note that counseling may not be as easy as it sounds and may require patience and time. After all, this is something that has been trailing the individual all their life and only time and determination will help the healing process. Also note that the counselor is not a magician who will wipe away all the problems with a magic wand.